Ideally, couples should create their sacred space together so that it reflects each of their tastes. Once the space has been thoroughly cleaned and removed of any clutter, decorate with sensual colors, fabrics, textures and objects. Inexpensive tapestries or colorful sheets hung from the walls or ceiling can transform an ordinary room into an exotic temple of delight. They can also easily be removed if this space serves other purposes. Consider incorporating decorative prints, photographs or artworks that suggest romance or erotica.

The Elements of Love
Now it's time to add elements certain to fan the flames. Select ingredients that delight all five senses. Candles, decorative lights, fragrances, incense, scented massage oil, plush pillows, feathers, bells or other musical instruments (a stereo is fine too), water, and a few sumptuous treats such as chocolates, olives, or fruit are possible accouterments. Experiment with a variety of "tools" to create the proper atmosphere and spawn new romantic possibilities.

Once these ingredients are in place, it's time to plan a rendezvous. Wear something sensual and revealing — lingerie, a velvet robe or silk kimono. Light candles or dim the lights to create a soft, warm ambience. Then, infuse the room with a favorite fragrance. Men are certain to enjoy lavender, pumpkin and orange, which have been found to send blood rushing to their "power stations." A spritz of ylang ylang, eucalyptus or mint can also titillate the senses.

Erotic Rituals
Beginning a sexual encounter with a ritual — a mutually agreed upon activity — can help couples connect emotionally and kindle sexual desire. Ritual can also add meaning to sexual experiences, helping us view and remember lovemaking with reverence. A simple and pleasurable ritual might begin with lovers taking turns massaging each other's feet. Create any type of ritual you desire.

Here's a more advanced idea: Light two candles and surround with rose petals. Face your lover. Gaze into each other's eyes and take turns sipping wine as you share what you love most about your partner's body or prowess in bed. Then, describe in delicious detail the seductive pleasures you will lavish upon each other in the moments to come. When the passion becomes unbearable, extinguish the candles to complete the ritual. Let the games begin.