- Share a bath, with bubbles or without
- Put in a porno video or DVD
- Explore your kisses' capacity to stimulate
- Massage your partner — in lieu of lotion, whipped cream or ice cream could make sweet additions to the sensuous mix
- Tie your mate to the bed with a scarf, or slap on the handcuffs to hold his or her attention
- Rub your clothed or naked bodies together. (Tempted to take it further? A gentle Berman reminder: "Orgasm's OK. Intercourse isn't.")
- Make mechanized sex toys, such as vibrators or dildos, part of your play
- Watch each other masturbate, or masturbate your mate
- Try "intercourse" VENIS-style, such as between her thighs or breasts
What's the common denominator here? There's no exchange of bodily fluids with any of these suggestions, which makes VENIS a safer-sex alternative to penetration.
Better Than Sex?
Noninsertive sex might bring you or your partner to orgasm. And, that's A-OK; however, don't make the big "O" a goal. With VENIS, if you're having fun and enjoying sexual arousal, then you're doing it right.
Mix up your activities. Indulge your curiosity. When you shift your sexual focus, turning foreplay into the mainstay, you'll discover "a fulfilling kind of sex that allows for creativity and communication," Laura assures. And, for women, another advantage of VENIS: clitoral stimulation, which women "always enjoy," according to the sex therapist, can be easier to achieve with this method than with traditional sexual intercourse.
