What is VENIS? For starters, it's a sexual technique that encourages partners to think about sex in an unconventional way. According to sex therapist Laura Berman, Ph.D., it's a whole new ball game, in which foreplay is the "home run" and penetration isn't permitted.

Berman developed the VENIS sexual-enhancement program to teach adolescents about safer sex, and has since encouraged all couples to explore the carnal wonders without the pressure of intercourse as an end goal.

"We tend to be very goal-directed when it comes to sex," Berman explains, "with the ultimate goal of any encounter always being intercourse. Turn that concept upside-down, and your sexual world opens up."

Pick Your Pleasure
Sexual pleasure without intercourse is the simple point of VENIS — it's an exciting alternative for anyone who's looking to spice up a lackluster love life, says Laura. What's more, it can take the pressure off a partner whose sexual problem — such as erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation; vaginal dryness or pain; or a low libido — makes intercourse a frustrating exercise. For elderly couples, it's a way to experience eroticism without the exertion.

You say you want a workout? Don't despair — VENIS activities, undertaken with a youthful vitality, can raise your heart rate.

Getting Started With VENIS
Consider these suggestions:

• Oil each other up — all over — and let the wrestling match begin
• Perform a striptease to turn on your mate
• Discuss your intimate fantasies with each other