"Before and After" Body Language
Prior to working with Glass, Cowgill and Garrett were frustrated by their failure to meet the right people for romantic relationships. Each credits Glass' tricks of attraction for the new, steady relationships that they now enjoy. The fundamental secret to success in both cases: a boost in confidence that resulted in a new, self-assured presentation.
Cowgill — "a manly, good-looking former cop," by the psychologist's description — used to "come across as a wimpy nerd." He now can initiate conversation where his shyness might have stopped him before. "I don't want to be selfish. I'm a nice guy who likes talking to new people, but it wasn't happening because of the withdrawn look I was giving off," he says.
As for Garrett, a physical makeover made it easier for her to approach and attract great guys. With her new, 21st-century look, she says, "It's like the mousy secretary suddenly turned into the glamorous star. Knowing I would turn some heads brought out the confidence in me." Her advice to others: "Fake it 'til you make it." She elaborates, "Dress up and wear something you might not normally wear — something that makes you feel and look sexy. Looking and feeling different might make you OK with exploring the more confident side of yourself."
Reading Sexual Signals Correctly
So you're no longer closing yourself off from the possibility of meeting a special mate, but how can you tell if the object of your admiration likes you back? Look at their body signals. If their toes are pointing toward you, they like you, Glass says. Toes pointing away means that they're not that interested. If their eyes are glued to you as you talk, that's a good sign. However, if they are looking around, needless to say, that is not a good sign.
For more on understanding body language and improving the signals you're sending, read these books by Dr. Lillian Glass:
- Attracting Terrific People (St. Martin's Press, 1997)
- He Says, She Says (G.P. Putnam's Sons, 1992)
- I Know What You're Thinking (John Wiley & Sons, 2002)
