How to Achieve Orgasm During Intercourse

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Many magazines and books are devoted to the subject, "How to Reach Orgasm." Whether you're looking for information about how to orgasm or you're looking for a specific method that teaches you how to orgasm, remember that learning how to orgasm isn't a one-time experience. Here are some positions and techniques that may help you learn how to reach orgasm.

• The missionary position with a full pelvic tilt. This position enables the penis to reach the G-spot, the part of the clitoris that extends into the vaginal wall. Lie on your back, beneath your partner, and tilt your pelvis upward. It helps to put one or more pillows beneath your buttocks, or have your partner raise up your buttocks with his hands.
• The woman on top. This allows the woman to adjust the position of her pelvis so she can better control the friction of the penis as it rubs against her clitoris. This position also allows deep thrusting into the vagina, which can stimulate the cervix and trigger an orgasm. The technique can be carried out with your partner lying down on his back or sitting.
• Strengthen the grip. During intercourse, many women flex their pelvic floor muscles to give both partners greater pleasure. The stronger the muscles, the better you can contract your vagina and create greater friction against your partner's penis, leading to more clitoral stimulation. Try squeezing down throughout intercourse.
• Keep your legs together. This can create friction from the penis and lead to a clitoral orgasm. When your partner inserts his penis into your vagina, squeeze your legs closed and have him place his legs outside yours. Your partner can then squeeze your legs further closed with his thighs. It may help if he can shift his pelvis forward to cause pressure and friction on your clitoris.
• Stimulate the cervix. While many women don't enjoy penile thrusting against their cervix, others find it's the key to orgasm. To determine whether this technique works for you, find a position that allows for deep penetration of the penis. You might try lying on your back, hugging your knees to your chest or resting your legs on your partner's shoulders. Or, have your partner enter from behind while you rest on your knees and lean forward on your elbows. For maximum cervical stimulation, straddle your partner, facing his feet (be careful, though. This position can cause a penile fracture).

For more on sexual positions, see the Bermans' book, For Women Only: A Revolutionary Guide to Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction and Reclaiming Your Sex Life.