If you're a woman in search of an out-of-this-world orgasm, try some techniques that sexperts swear by. If you're a man, orgasms are usually "a given" with direct stimulation of your penis, says sex therapist Laura Berman, Ph.D., but a man's orgasm can also reach new heights.

Trigasm: Three Times the Excitement
Two genital points of pleasure are commonly the center of a woman's orgasm: the clitoris, a sensitive, pea-sized part of a woman's genitals located in front of the vagina's opening before the lips join together; and the G spot, a small, spongy pad of tissue about two inches into the vagina, on the side facing the stomach.

Tell your partner where you prefer the focus, sex experts recommend, and whether you favor a lighter or firmer touch with a finger, tongue or sex toy. Then, take a chance at tripling your sexual pleasure — let your mate in on the "trigasm" technique, recommended by sexologist Ava Cadell, Ph.D. (better known as Dr. Ava).

A trigasm, which Dr. Ava calls the "ultimate orgasm," results from simultaneous arousal of the clitoris, G spot and anus. Experiment with various ways your partner can stimulate the three spots at the same time, using different combinations of his tongue, forefingers and penis (a vibrator can also play a part) to accomplish the triple touch. You can even achieve three times the stimulation by yourself, using your imagination and letting your fingers, maybe helped by a vibrator, do the feeling.

Two Out of Three Ain't Bad in Bed
If trigasm seems like too much of a good thing, pick any two of the three points and be happy with "bigasm," Dr. Ava encourages (or the tried-and-true "unigasm," with a single point peaked).

Dr. Ava's bigasm best-bet is a technique called the Venus Butterfly. It's an age-old favorite, first practiced in India around 3000 B.C., that employs simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and the G spot, which can result in an explosive orgasm.

On How a Man Can Be a Sexual Hero
Don't count on sexual intercourse itself to give a woman a top-flight orgasm — only 30 percent of women reach climax during intercourse, points out sex therapist Berman. The missionary position (man on top), in particular, tends to provide insufficient stimulation of the clitoris. So try to mix up positions and see which ones both partners can enjoy.

And no matter what position you choose — or how many erogenous zones you set your sights on — don't forget the foreplay. A woman almost always needs a buildup to make her orgasm a blockbuster. That's why "a man with a slow hand," says Dr. Ava, "is a hero in bed."

Men Can Have Multiple Orgasms, Too!
Come again? It's true — men, like women, can become multi-orgasmic. The secret, sexologists say, is to improve your command of the PC muscle, which controls ejaculation, as well as the flow of urine.

You can strengthen the large pelvic muscle by repeatedly flexing and holding it, as if you're stopping the urine flow; in time, you'll be able to tighten the muscle when you're about to ejaculate — that'll stop the ejaculation, but not the orgasm. In the same session, you can have another orgasm, ejaculation and all.

Now you can wait to ejaculate…long enough to please your mate.