Do you think a lesbian knows how to sexually please a woman better than a man does? Nearly 70 percent answered "yes" in a poll on Discovery Health Online. Public opinion aside, you don't need a sex change to please a woman — just a more exciting approach to transform your lovemaking from run-of-the-mill to remarkable.

What a Girl Wants
Whatever you do, don't assume the way you like to be touched will be a turn-on for your girlfriend or wife. "Ask her what she likes," encourages renowned psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Laura Berman. "Chances are, it's different."

"Knowing the 'map' is only the first step," adds Laura. "You not only need to be aware of the range of erogenous zones on a woman's body, but you have to understand the way she likes to be touched in different areas. She may like the back of her neck gently kissed, or the inner thighs touched in a certain way. She may even have a preference for the order in which you stimulate her different erogenous zones — first her back, then her neck, then her inner thighs, for example."

And women, it's up to you to tell your guy what peaks your pleasure (while zeroing in on his favorite zones!). Otherwise, you can only blame yourself if he takes a lust-dampening detour.

Get in the Zone
The Greek god of love, Eros, lent his name to the erogenous zones — those hot spots on the body that contain nerve endings galore, and where foreplay is rightly focused. A woman usually needs foreplay to prepare her for orgasm, so save contact with her clitoris for later, and build up to the night's climax by probing these other body parts:

• Her breasts. They're a sure-fire arouser for most women. Respondents to the poll named breasts and nipples as second only to the genitals as the most important erogenous zone on a woman's body. Just be mindful that at certain times of a woman's menstrual cycle, pressure on the breasts can be painful. A soft touch is a safer way to play.